In the world of horse training, there is a saying that my good friend and mentor always used when asking a horse in training to move through their fear of something, "It's not about the obstacle".
This simplified down to... It's all about the trust.
I went out yesterday to engage with Eagle, my recently gelded ex-stallion, who had always brought out a great deal of fear within me whenever I dealt with him, due to his highly sensitive nature. I had someone call me last week regarding Eagle and his availability for sale, so I wanted to check in with him. I stood there in awe, as he is truly magnificent and noble, and asked what it was he had needed from me all along that I couldn't give him. I received the words TRUST and PRESENT from him. And it was in that moment that I finally got it. My own A-HA moment! All those years when I would go out to do something with him, I would always have some sort of "agenda" of what "needed" to be done at that time along with the memory of what had happened the last time I went out to work with him (usually ended with me not accomplishing much of anything as his sensitivity would overtake the situation and without wanting to wreck that in him, I would just end up leaving him alone). These two words, TRUST and PRESENT are all it would have taken from me to really connect to him....he wanted that as much as I did and would always walk up to meet me, asking if I had found those within myself yet. Sadly, I could never see that back then that all he was asking for was me to show up trusting in myself and feeling fully present in order to start the relationship. Yesterday I would like to say that Eagle and I had a breakthrough, but it is probably more appropriate to say that I had a breakthrough...Eagle had been offering that opportunity to me all along and patiently waiting for me to get to where he was within himself, filled with trust for engaging with me and fully present. Why in the world would someone of a highly sensitive nature engage with another if they feel there is "no one home" within that body. Present is giving full attention to what is happening in the moment, now. Not a minute ago, not 5 minutes from now...NOW. Engaging in the present is how we shift our thinking, being and doing. Within about a half hour yesterday, Eagle and I went from disconnect to a relationship, all by me showing up trusting in myself and ready to be fully present with him as he was showing up RIGHT NOW.
IN THIS MOMENT.
It's never about the horse - it's always about us.
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